FAQ's of Marriage

FAQ’s of Marriage

1.       When will I get married?

Astrological parameters to be checked are: 7^th Lord and 7^th House, Maha dasha planet (Majorperiod) and Antar dasha Planet (Sub period),  Transit of Jupiter and Saturn, 5^th lord and 9^th lord, Navamsha Kundali (D-9 Divisional Chart).

If the 7^th lord is strongly placed with a favourable planetary dasha and also a strong influence on the 7^th house (bhava) by the transiting planets Jupiter/Saturn, then there is a very good chance that the native will get married in that period or will get engaged.

If there is support of the 5^th lord and the 9^th lord, then the native will fall in love with his spouse before marriage (in case of arranged marriage) or will go through a successful love marriage which is blessed by both the parents.

The ascendant should have fallen in a benefic amsa in D-9.  Venus should be well placed (karaka for marriage).    Karaka means “one who signifies.”

2.       Will I be happy after marriage?

Everyone wants a happy marriage. This is a question which is asked the most by parents when they are seeking a spouse for their son or daughter. They want to know whether their son/daughter will be happy after his/her marriage.

The parameters for a happy married life is not easy to be listed.

But, generally, for a good and stable marriage, Jupiter and Venus play an important role in ones chart.  Their placement will suggest as to whether there is spark in the married life or not. 

The 7^th house should be void of malefic and it should not be flanked by malefic planets (planets should not be posited on either side i.e. both in the 6^th and 8^th)

The lagnadhipati (ascendant lord) should be strong and the trik stanas (6-8-12 houses) should be void of planets or only malefic planets should be posited there.

Kendra lords and Kendras (Quadrants) should be well posited.

After all these parameters are satisfied, there are more parameters which have to be checked and since it is a detailed study all the parameters cannot be listed here.

3.        I am in love and will I marry him/her?

Marrying the person whom you love would be the most beautiful thing that has happened in your life. Not all love affairs end up in marriage.

Parameters for a love marriage: 5^th house/lord for romance, 7^th house/lord for an intimate affair and the 9^th house/lord for elders blessing/approval.

Most of the time we see that the couple who love each other are in the fear of disagreement from their parents.  It’s very rare that both the boy’s and the girl’s parents agree to the marriage.

The agreement of parents is seen form the 9^th house and the 9^th lords position in the chart.  If the 9^th lord is strong and is aspecting the 7^th house or the 7^th lord then there will be elders blessing.

If the 5^th is well placed with aspect of Venus then there will be a romantic love affair.  If there is an affliction of Mars on the 5^th house, then there will be an affair which may not be that romantic but will be more intimate.

4.       My marriage is going through a rough patch, will it patch up or how many years should I suffer?

If there are malefic influences on the 7^th and their (that planets) dasha is in progress, then the marriage will be going through ups and downs.

If the transiting Jupiter becomes retro over the 7^th house or the 7^th lord then there will be a temporary misunderstanding between the couple.

If one can see a good period in the future which will be a benefic planet and that planet is well placed in the horoscope, then the native will come out of the suffering and the marriage will patch up.

But, in the same scenario, if there is a malefic dasa of a slow planet like Saturn, Rahu or Ketu  then there is a chance that the marriage will break up.

The following dasha periods are not good for a stable marriage.

a)      Jupiter / Saturn

b)      Jupiter/ Venus

c)       Saturn/Rahu

d)      Rahu/Mercury

e)      Sun/Ketu or Sun/Rahu

It is always important to conduct a marriage when both the boy and the girl are not going through the dasha systems which are listed above. Also the upcoming dasha period should not be the above ones. It is difficult to adhere to these rules due to many factors, of which aging is the most important factor.

If there is a beneficial dasha following the time of query, one should give the native a hope of reconcile.

If the lagnadhipati is weakly disposed and the 7th lord is strong with malefic influences, then the native may have to go through this till the dasha/antardasha becomes favourable.  

The transits of Saturn and Jupiter play an important role in this case. A benefic Jupiter will give good financial gains and a benefic Saturn will give a sane mind.  Both of these factors help a marriage to be stable.

5.       I have gone through a divorce. Can I remarry and when is that?

This is also one of the common queries now-a-days.

The parameters for second marriage are: The 9^th house and lord, Venus, Mars and the transits of Jupiter and Saturn.

The 9^th house represents the second marriage (3^rd from the 7^th house – bhavat bhava principle).  A strong 9^th lord will give a stable and happy second marriage.  Also the placement of benefics like Venus/Jupiter in the 9^th will help.

The Maha dasha lord and the Antar dasha lord will help in deciding the timing of marriage and the quality of married life in their period. 

The placement of Mars is important in this case.  Mars gives the hope in life and hence in cases of depression after the divorce of the first marriage a benefic Mars aspect will be helpful for revival.  The native will make up his/her mind to get into another relationship after garnering courage.

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Marriage Matching

Marriage Matching

Of the Sodashasamskaras (16 important rituals), Marriage is regarded the second most important after Education.  This institution of marriage is regarded with curiosity since two individuals become intimate and try to lead their life by supporting each other.  Marriage is not just two people living together, but, realizing their dreams and aspirations together.  This relationship is so complex and intricate that an astute analysis by an intelligent astrologer is required. 

It is important for both the parties to clarify their doubts regarding many myths attached to marriage matching, v.i Kuja Dosha (Mangal Dosh), 7½ years of Saturn (Sade Sathi of Shahi), Sarpa Dosha, Kalasarpayoga and many more. Clarity in these subjects will bestow better understanding between both the parties.

Marriage is the most sacred part of our life. It should be understood in both holistically and in the practical sense.

It is a relationship in which we are suppose to spend a major part of our life. Today we see that relationships are not working well and many times the couple find it easy to dissolve their marriage rather than go through the process of rectifying it.

This is wherein right guidance from an astrologer comes into picture.  If one can match the charts and analyze both the pros and cons then it will be easier to comprehend.  Correct matching that is done by both traditional and cosmic methods can help one to find a right partner.

In cases where the marriage is on the verge of divorce or there is lack of understanding between the couple, marriage counseling is done to make understand both the partners about their necessities, requirements and their strengths and weaknesses.

This helps in analyzing the problems existing between the couple and counseling them in rectifying their mistakes so that they can understand each other in a more matured way, resulting in a better harmonious relationship between them. The guidance and insight imparted through Marriage counseling helps one take wise and matured decisions.

Mangal Dosha or Kuja Dosha

Mangal Dosha or Kuja Dosha

Traditional texts have mention that Kuja Dosha is formed if When Kuja (Mars) is placed in the 1st ,2nd ,4th ,7th ,8th and 12th houses from Lagna or Chandra.  It is mentioned in some texts and commentaries given by earlier astrologers that when Kuja is placed in the 5th from the Lagna or the Chandra also then Kuja Dosha is formed. 

Now many have understood and come in terms with the concept of Kuja Dosha.  The dosha in its entirety cannot be taken as a malefic placement, but, the intricacies have to studied and understood. 

Kuja gives confidence and logical thinking.  This if found in a modern chart of a female, is now-a-days considered good. This is because most of the grooms wish to have a career oriented spouse as their life partner.  This has changed the way we should analyse this dosha. 

After analysis of the different positions Kuja can be posited and can cause dosha, very less placements are to be taken seriously in these times of satellite family systems.  The concept of joint family system has dried up and nuclear families have multiplied.  In these nuclear families, the home maker the woman has to be strong willed and minded to support her husband both finically and emotionally.  There has to be a suitable position of Kuja, which earlier was a dosha now becomes a bala (strength) and can be called Kuja Bala.

The dosha of Kuja makes the person sharp tounged and aggressive.  There are instances when the native does not fear to cross ethical boundaries due to the malefic strength of Kuja which makes him take illogical decisions.

Hence a profound study has to be done before arriving at conclusions.